It could be a disaster… but the one you love!
Every home owner or designer has gone through the process of making decorating mistakes and learning from them in their lifetime. We imagine… go shopping…. bring something beautiful home…. place it or hang it or arrange it the way we want to… step back… and look at it in awe… of course with a dropped jaw because it looks awful… and ugly… and… not beautiful… not the way we imagined it would. Well, it happens all the time.
But then, there are times when we go through the same process… make a mistake… but its not really a mistake because it looks amazing. Sometimes even better than we had thought. I am thinking of those times right now.
“Celebrate your freedom – do what you love – what makes you happy.”
Feel free to make mistakes – its your home anyway. Its perfectly fine if that painting is hung a little above the eye level – as long as it feels good to you, or maybe the arrangement of that gallery in the living room is a little off balance. In fact, do get out of that lovely comfort zone of yours and experiment with different ideas. Besides, what else could be a better way to learn!
The only thing to take care of, as I believe quite obviously is – to take baby steps. Even if you enjoy the sweetness of having an enormously large budget to decorate your home from scratch, its better to make mistakes and learn along the way, but gradually. Start with small things… play around with them… create, abandon, create again, make changes, forget about the rules and see what goes with the flow… what feels right to you. It doesn’t matter if its not the perfect design or it doesn’t look like what you saw on that favorite blog of yours – its your home, love it… feel it… make it yours… in your own way. Forget about how it looks, if it makes you happy and feels like yourself, the ones who love you will love it too. Eventually!
Time flew and Grace and Joy turned 2 today. Still seems like just a while.
Last year I wrote about inspiration and being grateful to all those amazing people who inspire me everyday and for having this blog… for being able to write.
This year, its about joy of the journey.
They say that the journey itself is as much enjoyable as the destination. True that! As I am getting into the habit of writing everyday, the process of its becoming my second nature gives me immense joy. It feels so amazing to look forward to write… and fulfilled at the end of the day to see how a freshly written piece came about.
I feel writing is like meditation. It needs calmness of mind and focus and then as you let the words flow… letting them out, putting them on a paper feels so much lighter. Its like home-coming after a long day…
Its today! Grace and Joy turns 1! It was just yesterday that I started this new blog with new hopes and lots of love and now… as I write these words, it has been a whole year – which seems as if it has passed in just a blink of an eye.
Hundreds of bloggers around the world have celebrated their first year with gratitude to their readers and those who inspired them in their early days; and I couldn’t find a better way to celebrate mine.
I started off last year in quest of inspiration for a better, simple and beautiful home and above all for the love of writing. This blog has given me not only confidence and improved my taste but also a direction for many years to come. It has given me joy.
Another thing that I learned through this blog was to let go… let go of being unique… being different… and being able to change the world in your own way. It has inspired me to go slow and learn along the way because letting go brings clarity of mind and – most importantly it brings hope.
So, heartfelt thanks to many many people whose incredible works have inspired me… taught me, gave me hope, and kept this blog alive. Though they do not know it but they have done a huge service and continue to do so every single day because it gives them joy…
When it comes to create a neutral balance in colors and visual weight in a space, with accessories of course, my favorite thing to do is to add a bunch of plants or flowers. I am yet to meet a space that looks beautiful but lacks this little charm of life. Plants and flowers add life – they freshen up the whole space – they soothe the moods – and not to mention they calm down the nerves after long days. They are miraculous.
How to Decorate
I just mentioned creating balance in a space with plants. That is so true – they are a new neutral because they can calm down a space that has bold and dark colors, and yet at the same time; they can cheer up a space with neutral boring tones. Well, neutrals are not boring to me, I feel happier around neutral tones with a lot of character and texture…
Talk about sunlight – what a marvelous combination they make in a space with plants. I am not talking about sunlight being food for plants and flowers, but it is the look that the two together create in a room.
Nature always affects our nerves in all positive ways. Its about balance and creating a neutral effect that looks great to both eyes and heart.
Add a couple of plants or a beautiful vase full of flowers to your home and see the magic happen.
Better Homes and Gardens
Kitchens could be the messiest of all rooms in a home in real life; every cook knows that but that doesn’t deprive kitchens from looking colorful and beautiful and inspiring. They have every right of looking their best because they are heart of every home and the internet is filled with millions of visual proofs of that!
I never had a rug in the kitchen; mainly because it’s so prone to getting a lot of messy. With all those happenings that bring stains and grease, it needs a lot of maintenance and cleaning. But, despite of that, it’s so beginning to move upwards on my wish list gradually; only to make an appearance in my kitchen someday… because – its happiness in your eyes, love in your heart and fluff beneath your feet.
This Old House
Better Homes and Gardens
There are so many design trends and styles that look fabulous in magazines and studios with all that styling and special light effects, but they don’t seem to work in real life or they may work for a tiny little segment of people who are super bold when it comes to decorating their spaces and who have that much amount of money in their accounts that they don’t need to regret in case they don’t like a particular experiment and change it over whenever they like.
There hasn’t been a single time during the last few months that I dive into this sea of inspiration for ideas and not find a bare exposed brick wall in a home or a studio shoot for a glossy pretty home magazine. Now that’s what I’m talking about when I refer to trends that are too bold. Looking at them I always wondered, okay its looks good in a photograph but who would like to have a bare wall in their home anyway; like in real? Wouldn’t it looked haunted at night with low light in the room? Doesn’t it distract your eyes from all the other pretty things that you have collected and styled and arranged in the room? Wouldn’t it suppress the whole visual effect and balance in the room? But then it occurs to me, maybe I am too shy to try something like this. I just want to go try some very traditional decorating styles – the never-goes-wrong kind of styles. I think I need a courage level adjustment! (A what?!) I know it seems so very silly to say because I’m not a coward-y kind of a person but looking at a bare wall looks so unfinished to me that even sometimes I ask myself; uhhh…it’s not going to come down, right?
But then again, I would really love to see someone in person with that bold an approach and look that fine courage in their eyes with where-did-they-get-it look in mine and find out how do they make these crazy choices, stick to them and flaunt about them with confidence. Of course, artists and creative people do have that courage – they live by that courage – they live that courage every single day of their lives. Its who they are…
Capella Kincheloe Interior Design
Not every thing is everyone’s style, even if you are bold and have a lot of great and amazing ideas dying to get out of your head. There are things that just aren’t your style. They could suit some but not you. I guess, bare and exposed walls are not my kind of thing. I wonder why in the first place am I writing this?! Maybe because sometimes, we take inspiration from things that we don’t like. Sometimes, we want to try to get out of our comfort zones and make ourselves comfortable – seeing good in not-so-good things because maybe at the end of the day, this could help us take up some great opportunities that come our way.
We have lived in many homes – moving from one station to another after every couple of years – thanks to my dad’s job that we travelled and saw what beautiful and blessed-by-nature country we live in. But every home that we lived in had one thing that do not have now in our current home – a rug or carpet in the living room!
Red Door Home
Yes, a rug! We always had one in our living room in all of our homes until before we finally moved here, it was so worn out that we couldn’t keep it (it was in really bad shape and why not, it had done its job for years). So we got rid of it.
And that’s how our rugless bless started. The place that we are currently living in is kind-of an open floor space; with living+dining in the middle of the house connected to all other rooms and kitchen; so you have to pass through it to go from one room to another (and that’s what I adore about this floor plan that you can keep track of all the happenings around the house from the living room – which is great for a home maker!)
Not having a rug or a carpet in our living room has been such a convenience; the whole space becomes kind-of connected and easy to access; plus it’s so fun to decorate – each nook is a challenge to make it more functional ( or multi functional) and practical and not to mention pretty too. And it is so much easier to move things from one place to another depending upon the need and also for seasonal decorating. And the best of all; it is a hell lot easier to clean! A place that is clean is a happier one…indeed.
The best thing is that it feels so much lighter and brighter here. Our friends and family keep reminding us of that with their lovely compliments. Having lived in this place for over a decade, I doubt if I ever would want to put a rug in the living room. But with my changing sense of style or maybe trying to figure out what truly is my style – you never know when a gorgeous rug might appear in my home; just for a change maybe. But not for now…
Sometimes, some things become a blessing by not being there – its just a matter of understanding, experience and being thankful for what we have; and sometimes what we don’t have…
As I write these words, I sense sweet vanilla scent in the room coming from a candle, its so calming; no not just the scent, but – Reiki! Because I have energized it with Reiki. It keeps radiating natural energy while its burning; and its such a wonderful feeling to have the room filled with positive energy that’s nothing but a lovely gift of nature; warm, cozy and balancing.
Well, this post is not going to be a decorating kind, but in a way it is, for its about filling your home with love, light and positive energy; which is as important as decorating a mantle or arranging furniture in the right order or decorating the book shelve with the things you love because looking at them everyday makes you happier and proud of having them. Its like making your home look pretty and make it warm, cozier and welcoming. Such is a home where your heart warms up, your mind is at peace, your soul feels lighter and you feel positive and love being yourself.
We have been practicing Reiki at home for over a decade and it has become a lifestyle; a second nature. Well, it is a lifestyle. Its an energy that brings balance in our lives, our health, our minds, our relationships and in home too. Balance is so important because we come across and go through so much in our lives these days that we keep losing ourselves time and again; hence Reiki always comes in handy!
Back to candles! They are such a wonderful way to create a mood in home with a sweet aroma, to make it warm and cozy and to let positive energy move through your home. Really! We’ve been doing this (energizing and lit them) for quite some time and love the results. It just fills the room with subtle positive energy that makes you feel lighter, healthier and happier. We even tried it with family and friends who were going through a health issue or hard times otherwise and it has worked amazingly.
We make so much effort to make our lives complicated! Gathering up pretty things that we hardly need and doing things that bring us material pleasure (but actually are mere burden on ourselves), yet we never tend to feed our spiritual beings with what really matters! We have so many energies working in our surroundings, both good and bad and they keep influencing us throughout our lifetimes and we hardly ever notice how they affect our homes, our lives and our health. So there must be something that we could do to maintain the balance and to keep going and that something is Reiki – because it’s a great gift of nature that helps with all aspects of life; make us more of a positive being and assist in seeing things with clarity… which is something that’s so very much needed in the times of our lives.
Image: The Every Girl